My mother had a way of talking about me while talking to me. Telling me who I was, what she admired about me, parts of herself that she saw in me and making me feel acknowledged and loved. Those among other incidents are why food is so social for me.
Going beyond that, eating off of someone's plate is extremely intimate to me. I only do it with those I love/care for deeply. Or if I'm am trying to open up the possibility for a more intimate relationship with someone. Sharing a plate is one thing (and I do feel that is intimate, too), but silently reaching over to take something is, to me, a higher level of closeness. I'm realizing that most of my close relationships involve some level of imposition. I like to be imposed upon (in some ways) and love when others allow me to impose upon them.
Do y'all have any peccadilloes like that?
[...]
( I do declare! )
This leads me to the question, how do you handle the question when people ask you where you met friends from online? Are you direct and honest? Do you use euphemisms? (Linda and I have been saying the "mutual friends" line for some time now) Do you outright lie? Dime. [yeah, some of these spanish phrases don't work without acentos. lol]
Eb: I often wonder
if the love will be tonight.
But what is love, girl,
if I'm always out of sight?
[I now realize I was a bit off. It's "if loving you will be tonight." Oops.]
Nonrepliers
Thanks for playing
Eb: No dice, sir
Eb: Mentiroso!
Eb: Haha!! Nah she came and she changed his world. They saw each other all the time cause she left the country
Eb: Nice, Jon.
Winner!!
Huh Haaah!
So I ran out of questions. But I really, really want to keep the MJ theme going. So I've decided to veer off from the standard form and change things up in a way that might make it easier and maybe even more fun.
Instead of questions the next MJ lyrics will be either the beginnings of songs, lead-ins to the chorus or any "nonsense" sounds he makes I'm gonna focus on the last type (as best as I can). All the other rules still apply. If you know the name of the song, great. If you know the proceeding lyrics, even better.
Next one is gonna be easy to make up for this tough one.
LOL@ how many times I edited this entry.
Eb: Who am I to be blind pretending not to see their need?
Those who didn't make that change - Nonrepliers
A for effort
Eb: Lol no
Runners up
Winners
(Icy, I don't remember if I forgot to send it to you or if you didn't reply.)
I figure it's a decent way to start the new year: MJness, completing a task I have been procrastinating about doing, a song about change and service. Yep.
Poll #1504706 Versus: NG
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 6
Pick your 'Nasty Girl'
Vanity 6![]()
![]()
4 (66.7%)
Destiny's Child![]()
![]()
1 (16.7%)
Notorious B.I.G.'s remix (Biggie Duets)![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Other![]()
![]()
1 (16.7%)
That DC mess is some amazingly hypocritical shit.
ETA: And for some reason it's not embedding. Dah well. Prolly for the best. lol
I have been loving lychee martinis and decided to make some at home. I added what I thought was a decent amount (not too much, not too little) of vodka and that shit almost made me gag. I had to really punk up that drink in order to even try to consume it.
Being a lightweight makes me a little sad. =(
- Mood:
sober
Answers are not viewable (in case anyone would care)
Poll #1499775 Sex, Lies and potential videotape
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: None, participants: 16
Do you consider omitting information lying?
Yes, if it's important information![]()
![]()
10 (62.5%)
No, a lie is a lie![]()
![]()
3 (18.8%)
Other![]()
![]()
3 (18.8%)
Would you ever have a threesome/orgy?
I already have had one/some![]()
![]()
2 (13.3%)
Yes, If I were with people I cared about![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Yes, If I were with people I didn't care about![]()
![]()
3 (20.0%)
Yes, if _____ (fill in the blank in a comment)![]()
![]()
5 (33.3%)
Not my thing![]()
![]()
5 (33.3%)
Linda: :-p
Eb: whatever heffa!
Linda: I wasn't!
Linda: lol
Tari: right?
Eb: LOL!
Linda: all you heffas in here have beyond a college education
Dani: my ass
Dani: and we all showed up on time
Dani: imagine that
Tari: i thought africans were on time
Tari: *runs*
Eb: LOL!
Linda: Tari, I dunno which Africans you've been hanging with lol
Dani: lol! i don't know why we love being so mean to you LOL
Eb: lol@ Linda
Let the record show that it was Tari that said it and not me!
- Music:Bernard Wright - Who Do You Love
It's all so "pause" and "no homo"-esque and makes me want to throw things at people. It reminds me that men's focus on rape tends to be in one or two areas:
1. Fear of a hypothetical other man raping them when/if they hypothetically go to prison/jail.
2. Fear of a hypothetical woman filing hypothetical false rape charges.
It's all mystical and phantom and based on them watching too much Oz and SVU. Meanwhile real people are dealing with real ramifications of real sexual assaults daily. And I'm sure few, if any, men see the irony in them being fixated on shit that likely will never happen to them while ignoring all of the real shit that *is* happening right in front of their noses. I swear you can set your watch to this madness. As soon as someone describes a woman's assault some man will come along derailing the conversation to indulge his fears in fantasyland.
"Here's a story of a woman that was raped."
"Well, what about prison rape! Men get raped, too!"
"Here's a story about a woman that was raped and killed."
"But what about the fact that I could potentially one day maybe possibly be accused of rape by someone?"
"There was a woman that was assaulted..."
"But what about me and my hypothetical assault!"
"The other day a woman..."
"MEN!!"
Unfortunately the Aishah Shahidah Simmons interview seems to have been taken down from Black Agenda Report. Luckily Ro copied and pasted the main part I wanted to copy and paste any way:
( Discussions and How Men Can Help (and not be idiots) )
[cut for spoilers]
( Colorism, Accents and Violence )
Poll #1483415 Post Coitus
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: None, participants: 16
Generally speaking, what do you like to do after sex?
Fall sleep/Rest![]()
![]()
7 (43.8%)
Eat/Cook![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Cuddle/Talk![]()
![]()
5 (31.2%)
Watch TV![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Smoke![]()
![]()
1 (6.2%)
Other![]()
![]()
3 (18.8%)
So here's another question (not stolen). TV often depicts people that seem frustrated with partners that ask them for directions in the bedroom. So I'm wondering if this is a reflection of how people really view those kinds of questions or if it's just a reflection of the people that tend to become TV writers. So...does a (potential) partner asking you to describe what you want bother/frustrate you? Does it matter if it's before or during sex?
( My take )
I saw this and it made me wonder about how people generally eat chicken wings. I realized I do have a bit of a routine. I separate the bones and eat around them. If the skin is crispy, I'll eat that first. After watching the video though, I'm going to try his way the next time I have wings.
What about y'all?
- Mood:
vacation mode
THES BITCHES AND HOES IS NOT 4 ME I NEED A WOMEN would like to be your friend on MySpace.
Full name: SPazz Loc
................Come on, son.
If it weren't for my nephew and maybe one or two other people, I would so quickly delete my myspace. My nephew is good for changing numbers all willy nilly and moving around so myspace is the best place to remain in contact with him.
WTF, man?
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 12
Pick your 'Superwoman'
Stevie![]()
![]()
5 (41.7%)
Karyn White![]()
![]()
5 (41.7%)
Lil Mo feat. Fabolous![]()
![]()
1 (8.3%)
Alicia Keys![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Kimberly Locke![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Other![]()
![]()
1 (8.3%)
( Para escuchar )
- Mood:
still giddy
Eb: Why? Why... does he do me that way?
Special Place in Loser Hell - Non Replying Version
Special Place in Loser Hell - Replying Version
Eb: Wow Dani. Really?
Eb: This is so sad. Lol
Eb: That's one interpretation. Another is that you suck!
Runners up
Eb: Lol terrible
Eb: See, this message is too late for me to trust that it's not the result of a google search
Winners!
Eb: Yeah I so don't trust that you didn't google this
Eb: So you say!
Eb: Indeed
Eb: Justin, you won. It's overkill at this point. lol
**In light of Justin's complete meltdown I decided to describe the parameters for winning the text quiz.
The test quiz is primarily about lyrics and lyrical knowledge, but it's also about musical knowledge and creativity. So the breakdown is like this
1. Reply with the lyrics immediately following the question
2. Reply with the name of the artist and/or song [because the current series is all MJ, no points are giving for saying it's MJ. that's a lose]
2. Reply with other lyrics from any part of the song
Extra points are given when one creatively replies while either using lyrics, the name of the artist, the name of the song or some reference to the artist and/or song (which is why Timothy edged out a bit)
Not replying at all is "the worst kind of losing" so that's the lowest level.
Get it? Got it? Good.
Eb: Do you remember how it all began? It just seemed like heaven so why did it end?
Non-replying losers!
Sorry? =p
Eb: Haha!
Honorable Mention
Winners
Back In The Fall
We'd Be Together
All Day Long
Do You Remember
Us Holding Hands
In Each Other's Eyes
We'd Stare [also that looks a bit too uniform. you prolly googled it]
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 19
Who should pay for the bill (generally speaking) when people are dating?
The man should always pay [heterosexist, I know]![]()
![]()
3 (15.8%)
It should always be split evenly![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Each person should pay for whatever their meal costs exactly![]()
![]()
0 (0.0%)
Whomever asked the other should pay![]()
![]()
6 (31.6%)
Other [comment please!]![]()
![]()
10 (52.6%)
( My cut )
Fuck you very much, you Nightmare-Before-Christmas looking ass witch.
"Have you ever had something happen that was so racist that you didn't even get mad? You was just like 'Goddamn, that was rac- that was racist!" ~Dave Chappelle
- Mood:
antagonistic